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Asked to Officiate

Asked to Officiate is the #1 resource for couples who are asking a friend or family member to perform their wedding ceremony and the #1 resource for the friend or family member who has been asked. We offer multiple products and services, all targeted specifically at the goal of eliminating bad wedding ceremonies.

Our most popular product is the Asked to Officiate Ceremony Workbook, a 114 page comprehensive yet easy to use step-by-step instruction manual that will hellp anyone create a beautiful, meaningful and personal wedding ceremony. The Ceremony Workbook, in a logical way, covers the pieces within a wedding ceremony (opening words, vows, readings, etc.) and how to best order those pieces to create a ceremony that flows from beginning to end. In addition, the Ceremony Workbook includes a large number of sample pieces that can be copied and used to create a ceremony that very much fits the couple being celebrated. But wait there’s more…since preparing the ceremony is only part of the responsibility, the Asked to Officiate Ceremony Workbook also covers the preparation for, and logistical details surrounding the ceremony (ring exchange, how the couple should stand, when to tell the guests to rise, etc.).

We also have you covered if you only need part of what is found in the Ceremony Workbook by offering quick guides, and if you want a personal, beautiful, and meaningful ceremony but don’t want to create it, we can even write the ceremony for you. To back up our Asked to Officiate products know that we don’t just talk the talk since all products and ceremonies are written by a multiple award winning Officiant who has performed over 700 wedding ceremonies.

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How I cater to Offbeat Brides

In the olden days, wedding ceremonies were performed in houses of worship by people who used relatively the same script. These wedding ceremonies usually had a decidedly religious focus and were mostly one size fits all. This made for long, dull wedding ceremonies that were not at all personal to the couple getting married.

And although the way they did it in the olden days is still ok for some couples, there are plenty of you out there who want a ceremony that fits your uniqueness and celebrates you…your personality, your relationship, and the way you see marriage. And to get the personal ceremony you want and deserve, many of you are asking a friend or family member to perform your wedding ceremony. That is where Asked to Officiate wants to help. Creating and performing a wedding ceremony is a great honor but also a great responsibility, and a fair amount of work. Thus, shouldn’t everyone involved have the right tools for the job? Asked to Officiate products and services are the right tools for the job since they are specifically written to make sure a couple like you has a wedding ceremony that is personal to who you are. Why Asked to Officiate products? Because no cookie cutter ceremony pulled from the web, no five minute ceremony because Uncle Bob didn’t know what to write, and no ceremony surprises that don’t fit you.

"I stumbled on this website and purchased the book. My father officiated my June, 2013 wedding, and I was clueless as to how I wanted my ceremony to go. I did search online for examples, but couldn't really find what I was looking for. I found this website and reviewed a little about the book. As I recall, and I could be wrong, I felt like this was a newer company and a newer idea, so with a little skepticism, I did purchase the book – they sold me on it! 🙂
The book is nothing short of amazing! It is like a workbook, you sort of fill in the blanks on some of the sheets. There are so many different idea for conducting your own ceremony. I reviewed the book, filled out some of the things I thought would work well for us, and mailed the book to my father who lives in a different state. He then went through it, and between the two of us, and Asked to Officiate, we created a beautiful ceremony!

If you're on the fence about this book, just jump right down! I had no idea about creating a ceremony, knew nothing about the legalities, the structure of ceremonies, how to present the ceremony, and so many others, so this book was my ceremony "bible," so to speak. There is nothing generic about it, it goes through many different scenarios for every type of wedding you can think of. A second marriage, a marriage with children, how to incorporate children into the ceremony, same sex ceremonies, many different scenarios with great ideas for them! I do apologize as I am working on memory, because it's over 18 months ago for me. But, I do know, we would not have been able to pull off such a wonderful ceremony without the help of Asked to Officiate. It was well worth the investment! Maybe my children will be able to get some use of it as well!" -Kalie V

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Examples of my work

Below is part of a page from the Asked to Officiate Ceremony Workbook. This particular page is within the ceremony creation section of the workbook.

End of Aisle Question
traditional, modern or no question at all?
In this section I am covering the question to be asked of the father, or parents,
after the bride comes down the aisle. This can be a traditional type of question,
a modern type of question, or the couple can decide on no question at all.

The main reason there is mention of not having this “question” in the ceremony
is because this can be a very emotionally-driven piece that many of my couples
have to take a bit of time to think through. There is no right or wrong answer
but let us first look at why it is so emotional. Essentially this “question” comes
from the tradition which had the bride’s father “giving” her away. Because it
comes from the days when the bride was bequeathed into marriage by her father
and really had no choice in the matter, many modern brides prefer to either
not have any question asked, or to at least ask more of a question of support
instead of turning over possession.

Question Options
(traditional options) “Who gives this woman away in marriage?” or “Who
presents this woman in marriage?” or “Who brings this woman to marry
this man?” The answer would be worded something similar to “Her
mother and I do.”

(modern options) “Who supports this woman as she joins this man in
marriage?” or “Who supports ____________ as he/she and
__________ take this next step together?” The answer
would be worded something similar to “her/his mother and I do.” This is
a great option since the traditional questions tend to feel odd to most
brides and grooms now, especially when the couple has been living together.


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